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January 10, 2017

How to Leave Your Church Without Hurting It

By Mark Dance

Those of us who have the privilege of serving on a church staff will eventually leave our ministry posts. Two years ago, I resigned from the church I have loved and served for over thirteen years in order to serve pastors with LifeWay. I would like to share a few lessons I learned from this transition that may help make your last Sunday a happy ending rather than a hurtful one. 

Step 1: Inform Key Leaders Early

In Baptist circles, the pastor does not usually choose his successor because of our congregational polity, but he can leverage his influence to help make the transition as smooth as possible.  

It was both a matter of integrity and practicality to immediately inform a handful of the most obvious leaders of our church of my plans to transition out. Soon after, I invited them to my home and asked them to guide my decisions by becoming my personal “transition team.” From that first monthly meeting, every decision would be a “we” decision, which paid off later for the church.

Step 2: Over-communicate to the congregation

Fortunately, our church constitution plainly laid out the next steps for the search and interim process. My job was to make sure those policies were implemented fairly and communicated consistently. You cannot over-communicate transition steps because their need for clarity and reinforcement is exponentially greater during a transition.  Sheep tend to get “sheepish” whenever a shepherd leaves, so make sure they hear and read about what is about to happen next from you as well as other visible leaders.

Step 3: Think and act like an interim 

I understand why some of you might be uncomfortable with the idea of turning over your keys of leadership to a group of leaders so quickly. It was almost counterintuitive for me, but I knew that the moment I said “yes” to LifeWay, I literally had become a temporary (interim) leader.  

In regard to long-term ministry initiatives, it gradually became easier for me to “become quick to hear {and} slow to speak” (James 1:19).  

Step 4: Love your people deeply 

It may seem natural to withdraw emotionally during the weeks or months of your transition, but I want to strongly encourage you to fight that temptation. If you want to finish strong, then love without reservation until the very last day. Better yet, love past that last day because they need to be loved by you even when they are no longer led by you. Go the second mile by reaching out to them in small ways that will not become a distraction or competition. 

A church is a family, regardless of where you are on the org chart or payroll. After a new pastor has been chosen to succeed you, back way off, yet don’t feel compelled to disconnect to the point where the sheep feel abandoned by you. 

Step 5: Serve enthusiastically to the end 

It was more than ethics that motivated me to devote myself fully to my job at hand. My desire to finish strong was rooted in my conviction to the calling God had given me thirteen years earlier. 

Whatever you do, do it enthusiastically, as something done for the Lord and not for men. Colossians 3:23

Step 6: Focus on the success of your successor

Helping the staff that is staying through the transition will not only benefit them, but it will also set your successor up for success by reinforcing a culture of honor. “Double-honor” is a biblical principle for all pastors, not just the lead pastor. 

Look for opportunities to support the existing staff both publicly and privately. For example, I asked some of our leaders to help Second Baptist to observe Pastor’s Appreciation month for our staff after I left, which they were very happy to do. 

William Vanderbloemen’s very helpful book, NEXT: Pastoral Succession That Works gives several successful and unsuccessful models to learn from. My favorite line is, “The one cardinal rule for pastoral succession is that there is no cardinal rule for pastoral succession.” 

Love covers a multitude of mistakes, so make sure every transition point is covered with it, and you will succeed in leaving your church without hurting it. 


Mark Dance

Mark Dance (@markdance) has decades of pastoral experience. He speaks at churches, conferences, and retreats–often with his wife Janet. Mark has contributed to several books and offers encouragement at MarkDance.net.


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