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September 25, 2019

An Intentional Strategy for Christian Parents

By New Churches Team

Bigger Than Ourselves

Trying to live two distinctly different lives in two distinctly different worlds is nearly impossible. But it seems that many Christian parents attempt to do this all the time when it comes to what happens in the home and what happens in the church building. The reality is that no matter how hard we try to separate the two worlds of our homes and our churches, what happens in our home deeply impacts what happens in the church. And what happens in the church ought to deeply impact what happens in our homes.

So, how do we navigate these two dynamics as Christian parents? We must have an intentional strategy for both the church and parents.

A Strategy for the Church

Family ministry can be defined as an intentional partnership between the church and the home. It is designed to teach kids, develop leaders, and equip parents who all become disciple-making disciples. This partnership functions best when there are clear expectations and faithful practices among the leaders in the home – the parents – and the leaders in the church.

In order for what happens in the church to have an influence on what happens in the home, the church must be intentional in programming, in communication, and in resourcing to set parents up to succeed in the home. The family ministry programming in a church ought to be a supplemental effort for a child or student to be discipled, supporting the work of the parents.

When this is the case, what happens in the church becomes a springboard for discipleship in the home, rather than an end in and of itself.

  1. Realize that parents are the primary disciplers. Find ways to engage parents in the programming as volunteers, as participants, and even as leaders or staff. Ask parents to observe the programming or participate in some capacity that may fit their gifting. Always be considering ways that parents can participate and see what their kids are doing in the ministry. This will allow what happens in your ministry to have a greater likelihood of impacting what happens in the home.
  2. Communicate often. Most parents want to know what’s happening in the lives of their kids. However, many parents don’t seem to inquire as often about what’s happening in the church because they have a high level of trust. That trust is great, but being unaware of spiritual lessons that kids are learning in these environments is actually more harmful for parents because they are unable to correct if necessary and they are unable to reiterate the truths being taught. Regular communication with parents can help churches influence what happens in the homes of their families.
  3. Make helpful resources available to parents. This may come in the form of lists that promote insightful books or articles, hosting or promoting conferences, and having regular trainings for parents. These efforts can help equip parents to be more faithful in discipling their children in the home.

A Strategy for the Home

Now the flipside of this approach is exploring how what happens in the home influences what happens in the church.

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